“It took me a while last night to think of what I most appreciated about you.  I was most moved by your presence and authenticity.  I think you showed the way through the material as much by how you were with us during our classes as by what you said.  My thanks to you! “

 

“I've been sharing some of what I've been learning with my daughter Anna -- a most courageous and zestful 18-year-old -- and together we've been appreciating the insights and strategies you've been offering us. (And, as you know, 18-year-olds are very honest judges!) The other day, for example, we drew on the idea of positive, constructive response as we talked over a family dynamic that had just given her trouble. So Anna's also grateful. “

 “I am definitely happier now.  Many mornings I wake up smiling.  I can't say how the course did it, though. The two most likely causes are: the increase in time I now spend meditating (yoga nidra) and the time I spend practicing the feeling of being loved.”

 

“I now understand myself to be a source for love, for myself in moments when I begin to feel that old feeling of abandonment, and for others.   That bounces back to me and I am surrounded by love!”

 

“I have felt left out of the warm, juicy love business.  I see others “connecting” while I observe.  I understand now and am experimenting with a different attitude.  Admitting to myself that I, too, am vulnerable, that I, too, need, is hard for me, but I can see people responding.  A dry sponge can’t soak up water!”

 

“It was a revelation to see the “ambivalent” attachment style in myself!  And to understand how it drives my husband crazy, too.   I am learning to contain and comfort my anxiety and to ask my husband for some simple, do-able statements of reassurance.  Yay!  It’s working!”

 

“I think my daughter-in-law is 'avoidant.'”   She is guarded.  And that triggers my insecurity.  Then I have scared her off by wanting too much from her.  I need to make it safe for her to choose her own distance/closeness, to be inviting but not demanding.  It’s working.  I am getting to spend more and more time with my granddaughter and this pleases me no end.  Thank you for  helping me to do this.”

 

“You really modeled a very caring, cooperative, forgiving and growing style.  I loved the beginning meditations. I really appreciated the integrity, thoughtfulness and hard work that went into preparing all of the classes.  I loved how you took what you learned from Martin Seligman and Daniel Siegal and others and then integrated all of your own valuable life experiences and expertise into a new course.”